Boy, I couldn't agree more with this advice. So often people ask what they have to do differently to find Mr. or Mrs. Right. I always tell them to shift the focus from searching from someone to simply LIVING. Sometimes, they look at me like I'm nuts.

What I'm trying to tell them is in order for someone fabulous to pay attention to you, you have to be someone equally as fabulous. It doesn't mean that you need to be a different person physically (so for all those people who think I mean that they need to lose weight - think again!)

Instead of searching through dating sites or dieting until you're about to pass out, work on doing the things you enjoy. Engage in hobbies. Take a class and learn something new. Even if you're lonely (and we've all been in a position of extreme sadness or isolation) still go about and live your life. Most importantly FORGET ABOUT DATING.

For how long? A few months. Longer, if you've been going from relationship to relationship and have NEVER been alone. Do it until you're stronger than the feelings of loneliness. Until, basically, you don't NEED someone to come into your life but you WANT them to because the rest of your life is so great it'd be nice to share it with someone. When you're at that point, you can fully recognize that great person once they finally appear.