It recently came to my attention that there is a relatively new website for married people who want to use the Internet to have an affair. MySecretAffair.com seems to cater to people who don't plan on telling their spouse that they are sleeping with someone else. But I didn't actually realize this until I went to the site. My assumption going in was that the site was going to be for married couples who are in open relationships.

Realizing my error, I began to wonder about how many sites for married folks are designed around secrecy as opposed to how many are for people who are open about their affairs. Living in San Francisco, it's not uncommon to meet married people who are content in their relationships but openly sleep with other people. However, I realize that this isn't the norm in most areas. Unfortunately, affairs seem to be more common than open relationships.

It seems to me that an online relationship isn't really the best way to go if you're trying to keep things on the down low. After all, how hard is it for your spouse to figure out that you're on an online dating site? But maybe that's just because I think honesty is the best way to go in any relationship. As a result, I wouldn't bother with a secret site because I've got no interest in the drama that surrounds keeping secrets. But the sites seem to be thriving so apparently others don't agree.

Question of the Day: Would you be more likely to use a married-but-seeking site that was for open relationships or for secret affairs?

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