Long Lost Love
Monday, 23. June 2008 - 9:07 am
Came across this blog entry chatting about the subject of past loves. I think this is a very interesting subject, especially because many daters ask me about loves that have long left their lives but who still remain a part of their minds. And why is that? Why do the people we once loved still stick in our memories so very deeply?
I'm reminded of a woman I once worked with who was happily married for over ten years. I had a chance to see her and her husband out several times, and at each outing I silently noted how genuinely happy they seemed.
Despite her happy marriage, she had kept letters from her first love unbeknownst to her husband. The letters were at least fifteen years old, and every once in a while she took them out and read them. Her husband found out about this one day and was incredibly hurt and angry.
I found myself siding with him. Why did she keep these letters? Why did she read them? Surely the small part of her esteem that got built up by reading a love letter from someone else wasn't worth the hurt that she placed within her marriage. It didn't matter that she hadn't seen the guy in several years, the fact that she still held this unrealized ideal bothered her husband. As if she had a fantasy that only someone else could fulfill.
I seriously doubt if she saw this long lost love again they would hit it off with sparks flying behind them. But given this fantasy she's kept up for so many years, I have to wonder. Is the "what if" stronger than happiness in the present? Are people every really content with the love they have now?
Image from Morguefile.
24. June 2008 - 7:54 pm
I understand the woman. I am divorced now, have been for a while. I kept love letters from a man, I feel truly loved me. Not that I necessarily loved. Why? After 10 years alone, I like to be reminded I am lovable. Thanks Chip.
22. November 2008 - 7:34 pm
I understand what the woman was feeling. I have kept love letters from my first love too. He is a love I will never forget. He will forever hold the key to my heart.
13. January 2009 - 6:12 pm
I’m casting a show on this topic! Please read! Ever wonder what happened to the one that got away? To your high school sweetheart or college love? What would you do if you had a second chance with a past love?
TVLand would like to give you the opportunity to reconnect with a former flame and explore the possibility of rekindling that relationship on an exciting new documentary series entitled: “First Love, Second Chance”.
If you are single, between 35 and 50 years old and looking to reconnect with a past love that you have not seen for an extended period of time, we want to hear from you!
If you are interested and think your story is a fit for our show please fill out the form below and submit to us today!
Tell us about yourself:
Name, Email, Contact Number, Age, Hometown, Occupation, Brief Bio
Tell us about the relationship:
When the relationship began and when it ended?
Why did you two break up?
When was the last time you were in contact with this person?
Send to: JODICASTING@GMAIL.COM
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13. January 2009 - 6:15 pm
I’m actually casting a show about this topic!
Ever wonder what happened to the one that got away? To your high school sweetheart or college love? What would you do if you had a second chance with a past love?
TVLand would like to give you the opportunity to reconnect with a former flame and explore the possibility of rekindling that relationship on an exciting new documentary series entitled: “First Love, Second Chance”.
If you are single, between 35 and 50 years old and looking to reconnect with a past love that you have not seen for an extended period of time, we want to hear from you!
If you are interested and think your story is a fit for our show please fill out the form below and submit to us today!
Tell us about yourself:
Name, Email, Contact Number, Age, Hometown, Occupation, Brief Bio
Tell us about the relationship:
When the relationship began and when it ended?
Why did you two break up?
When was the last time you were in contact with this person?
Send to: JODICASTING@GMAIL.COM
FOR MORE INFO GO TO OUR WEBSITE: http://WWW.CORNWELLCASTING.COM