Do you talk to your friends about your mate?

I caught this article about a woman who spilled the beans about every single detail of her relationship to her friends. Her question was, what kind of boundaries should she keep as her mate didn't like the fact that she blabbed a little too much. Her mate didn't seem to like it (and rightly so.)

There IS a fine line of sharing information with pals and protecting your relationship. And it does come down to protecting your relationship. A great partnership should be a place where you feel safe. If your partner knows something embarrassing about you, you can be assured that they won't make an issue of it when you're with other people. If there's a fact that you'd rather keep to yourself, you shouldn't have to worry that your partner will announce it to others, even his or her friends.

I've seen a few couples do this. They seem to one up each other when it comes to embarrassing the other person. It's an awkward thing to be around and listen to. One of the partners will share some private detail in an effort to make the other feel uncomfortable, and the other will try and top that. This kind of behavior is quite toxic and will affect your the health of your relationship.

There is an expectation of protection and privacy in a great relationship. It's not that you can't talk to your friends about your partner, it's that there are some things that aren't for public ears. Do you agree?

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