The Myth of the Nice Guy
Monday, 10. November 2008 - 5:36 am
We've talked about nice guys before on this blog. There's a common myth that women don't want nice guys, but personally I don't really believe that's the case.
I do think, however, that there are guys who think they're nice when in fact they are not. Those are the ones that will say "Women don't really want a nice guy."
But there's also another group of guys who simply fall in love a little too fast. They are a bit too clingy right from the beginning, and rather than hurt these blokes feelings, a woman will break up with him by saying, "You're a nice guy, but…."
Are those the truly "nice" ones then? There's an article I caught recently on this subject and I had to really agree with the author, who said the "nice guy" "gives too much – all without getting anything in return. By doing so, he has made himself appear desperate, insecure, needy of this woman's attention, affection, and approval – and he has stripped himself of any value in her eyes."
These are also the guys that say women don't really want someone nice. But if you're acting clingy and desperate too early on in the relationship (or at any time during the relationship), does that truly mean you're too nice for your own good? I think that's just something people tell guys like this in order to get away from there without hurting their feelings.
17. November 2008 - 12:24 pm
On the flip side, ‘non-nice’ guys (a.k.a. jerks) would probably portray themselves in a way that genuine nice guys may not… i.e. dominant, more outgoing, charismatic, etc. While today’s women may not need a “strong” man, that doesn’t change the fact that there is an inherited tendency that many women have to seek out traits in a male that are likely to indicate strength & dominance (i.e. good traits you want to pass on to your kids). So with respect to the underlying “evolutionary” aspect, nice guys (with their doting ways) don’t give that “alpha male” characteristic that appeals to MOST (not all) women’s basar instincts.
29. December 2008 - 11:24 pm
Nice guys are a rarity! I’d want a nice guy and believe me if I found one I would snatch him up and keep him forever!
19. October 2010 - 7:46 pm
women are the biggest asswholes on the face of the planet..you lie from the get go. you say one thing a mean another.. then you blame men for being too nice ..men arent too nice your too bitchy and selfish..get over yourself become confident .even womens laughter is repulsive..it sounds like throwing cats into a shredder.. remember god made man first women out of a limb so you women are void of true intelligence ..im gay so i dont care but i hate you women i hope you all burn in hell
14. January 2011 - 9:08 am
i wish rape was legal so i could just shove it in if she didnt except